Welcome to Our Blog

Enter a search term to the right, or browse below.

A change of pace

Starting next week, new blog posts will go out every two weeks, rather than weekly. My focus is being pulled in many directions right now. Because. . . . The pace of life speeds up Personally, I am still adjusting my weekly schedule around a new job at a Hilton hotel...

read more

Sympathy and prayer–kids can see the connection

Our foster daughter Angie had the most sympathy of any person I've ever known. At age 14, her spontaneous, heartfelt expressions of sadness for someone else's misfortune far surpassed my own. Angie and I had occasion to drive through some hardscrabble neighborhoods in...

read more

More than bystanders: community transformation

For most young people, school and its related activities are the scene of almost all personal involvement with others. You might say that school is a community-- the broader environment in which kids find themselves. They can not only have a good experience there, but...

read more

An underrated yet powerful motivator for kids

One consistently underrated motivator for kids is the moral or spiritual motivation. We're trained to think kids won't care about doing the right or courageous thing for its own sake. But what is almost every classic kids' movie or book about? The classic clash...

read more

Childhood spiritual styles: Enthusiastic Style

The different ways children experience God can be called their spiritual style. With their mind and heart they form a positive relationship with God in the best, most natural way for each of them. Many styles within the same spiritual tradition Typically you and the...

read more

Childhood spiritual styles: Sharing Style

Has anyone ever asked you about your personal spiritual style? Has anyone ever offered to support you in exactly that area, the area of your strongest receptiveness for the divine? Or has it been your experience that most [people] are so focused on their own approach...

read more

Childhood spiritual styles: Bold Idealistic Style

A child's spiritual style is not the same as personality or character. Rather, it describes the way the child most naturally connects with God. Our aim here is to give adults some tools for leading children to discover and experience further growth in their faith in a...

read more

Childhood spiritual styles: Rational Style

In what environment does your child feel particularly close to God? It's not that God is objectively closer to them in those situations, but that they feel God's closeness more, they sense God to be closer to them. These "locations" reveal a child's spiritual style....

read more

Childhood spiritual styles: Sensory Style

“A spiritual style is a God-given antenna for the divine.” German philosopher Christian Schwarz’ research into how people connect with God gives insight into the way each child most naturally experiences God. Many years ago I adapted Mr. Schwarz’ findings for my own...

read more

Watch us grow!

As children grow, we mark their progress in a number of ways. We mark their height on the wall. We post their report cards on our refrigerator. We place their most recent school photo on our mantel. As these milestones pass, we share our joy with our family and...

read more

A child’s trust builds when we–and God–show up

“Eighty percent of success is just showing up,” according to Woody Allen. In building trust with kids, that is absolutely true. Trusting relationships start with us. One of my mentors, Linda Sibley, shares her perspective. "Attention to little things over the long...

read more

Parents, prepare yourself to break some rules!

Linda Sibley wrote: "One hard and fast rule of parenting is that you can’t take your kids any further than you have come yourself." And no parent knows every healthy way of living emotionally, physically and spiritually. She continues, "So we’re not only figuring out...

read more

God as a source of security for children

At any given age children experience normal fears and anxieties. If a family becomes concerned about a child’s unusually high level of anxiety, plenty of psychological resources exist. But there is an additional, important resource to be found in anchoring children at...

read more

Kids ask, “How can I let God know I love God?”

Hopefully these sample answers, which you can adapt to your specific beliefs, provide some seed ideas for conversation. They are written at a child's vocabulary level. What you are saying and doing now will help lay crucial groundwork for their exploration of God...

read more