questions posed to ourselvesToday’s challenge is prompted by a reader’s feedback about my new book, Child-Centered Spirituality. He wrote, “While I was reading some of the pointers, affirmations and discussion questions for parents to use with their kids – I was struck by the fact that I really needed to ask forgiveness from a friend I had recently said some harsh things to.  A passage in the book poked me in the eye.  I did the deed of contrition – and got an instant reply of thanks and ‘reconciliation.’  All those questions we should be posing to children, we should be posing to ourselves too. So your book operated on another level for me – Thank you!”

Questions as a gateway into our own spiritual life

questions posedWhat questions does he mean? Questions that make kids think. Those uncovering our need for a searching and fearless moral inventory–questions that poke in the eye. Discovery questions for kids who know there’s a better way. Those leading to reflection.  Regular self-reflection can become a key to talk more openly and naturally with the children in your life.

Start by journaling your responses to these questions, suggested by Larissa Marks

  1. In a few words or phrases, describe how you are presently doing.
  2. How have you experienced the divine lately?
  3. What has been life-giving? What has been life-draining?
  4. What things are presently occupying your mind and heart?

Then by all means, engage some people you trust in conversation around these matters. It can be a spiritual director, a trusted friend, or someone whose spiritual journey you respect. Being able to talk with others is critical. Engaging with others in a safe environment can be a surprisingly healing experience. After all, none of us is really in this alone. We all need others along the road with us as we travel.

Tweetable:  Once in a while, sprinkle thought questions into your car conversations with kids. Questions about the bigger meaning of life or its big picture. Click to Tweet